Why institution of marriage came into being ???

A legend goes, as to how the institution of marriage was created.

There was a sage called Uddalaka. He had a son called Swetaketu.  Swetaketu was a small boy aged about eight  or 10 years.  Uddalaka was making morning oblations to the Sun God.  His wife was supplying water  to him.  While the oblations were continuing, another Brahmin came and made a proposition to the lady  that  they  should  go  together  for sexual intercourse  and  the lady readily agreed.  The boy was taken aback and Swetaketu told his father:  "How is it that you have allowed my mother  to  go with another  man?"  The father, Uddalaka says:  "Boy, that is the rule of the land." But Swetaketu did not agree.  At a later stage, he became a great sage. He  wrote  an  Upanishad  also  and  he  propounded  the   first   theory   of Uddalaka-Swetaketu principles  where  in  adultery was prohibited. 


As can be seen from above, that an adulterous women, was what prompted creation of institute of marriage. Also it was initiated by a son, who wanted his parents to stay with him. However, when he drafted the laws, he didn't got prejudiced, and made the law gender neutral, i.e. he forbade adultery by both the husband and wife.

However, centuries later, (rather more then 2 millennium) when Hindu Marriage Law (HMA), was drafted, it didn't forbade made adultery by a wife a crime. But ironically, the law said that, if a wife commits adultery, the man with whom, she commits adultery is the guilty person. The law takes the view, that the wife is innocent, and has been deceived :) Probably the law makers were too prejudiced, with what was happening in their own lives.

HMA also favors wives, when custody of children is given, when couples seperate. Which in itself, negates the whole concept of marriage.

All this, made one very highly knowledgeable person, remark (before 1983)
"Marriage has became nothing more then institutionalized prostitution."

Tortured by wife, police inspector commits suicide

If a senior police officer can be  harassed by his wife, imagine the torture, that a common Indian citizen, has to undergo.


http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Troubled-by-ex-wife-cop-shoots-self/articleshow/5829717.cms


MUMBAI: The constables of Borivali police station were shocked when they heard a bullet shot coming from the changing room early on Sunday morning. Police inspector S Patil had shot himself in the head with his service revolver and was found lying on the ground inside the room.

"He was on duty the previous night and in the morning, once his shift got over, he walked into the changing room and shot himself," said additional commissioner of police, Ramrao Pawar. In his suicide note, Patil blamed his ex-wife and her brothers for pushing him to take this step.

The Borivali police have arrested Nirmala Desai (50), Baban Desai (45) and Dutta Desai (40) in this case. Initial investigations reveal that Patil was alledegly regularly troubled by his ex-wife and her brothers for money.

Married to Patil in 1978, Nirmala left him in the 1982 since Patil was just a constable at that time and she didn't want to live with him. "They didn't get an official divorce but she gave him in writing that he could marry anybody else if he wants," added Pawar. Soon, Patil married for the second time and now has three children in this marriage. Few years ago, Patil got promoted to the post of an inspector and this is when Nirmala allegedly started harassing him.

"She and her brother would regularly blackmail Patil by threatening to malign his reputation in the society to extort money out of him. Since his children weren't aware of Patil's past, he wanted to keep it a secret and adhered to their demands," said another senior official. With the harassment lasting for almost four years, Patil had already shelled out Rs 7.5 lakh to the trio to keep their mouth shut. Still, Nirmala's brother started demanding Rs 10 lakhs more from Patil. "In his suicide note, Patil has mentioned that this was the main reason for him to take this step," added the officer.

Just four days ago, Nirmala had also sent a written notice to Patil asking for an alimony. The trio has now been arrested under sections 306 (abetment of suicide) and 384 (extortion of money) of the Indian Penal Code.