Does Family Implies only Females ?

Different people have different viewpoints about anything, but in social norms, normally not many viewpoints are available. Case in point is the definition of a family. Though some may argue, that there are different views about family, when it comes to practice, there is still a majority view, which is acceptable to most people. The majority view is normally conservative. What is that view ? That view is that females are an essential part of a family, and that they need to be protected. Take an e.g. of family room/areas in a restaurant. If a group of females(with no accompanying male), enters the family area, they are greeted. It can be that none of the females are related by any blood relationship, or they may be just acquaintances of each other. But they can go in the family area. However, if say two men, who are brothers, try to enter the family room, they are normally stopped, and requested to occupy the general area. If they have a female(who may not be a "family" member) accompanying them though, they can enter the family area.

Even when people inquire a man about his family, they essentially are asking about his wife. (Indian) Society feels that females, more specifically wife is an essential part of any family. And without a wife, there can be no family. So even though, you have a loving an caring mother, sister, father, brother. That amounts to nothing, for general people. It is a faulty and shallow viewpoint though. Since these people think, that if you are not pro-creating, you aren't part of the society. It is essential to note that Indian scriptures do not mandate such a thing. Though scriptures speaks about Grushasthshram, it is not mandatory. God Hanuman never married, even when many efforts were made towards that end  by his "well-wishers". Though, if we think about it, Hanuman is an essential part of Ram's family. At their core, even other religions would subscribe to this view.

How you can stop the suicides

Since there is a mass tyranny going on in India, due to the legal terrorism unleashed on millions of people. Some people started voicing their concern, and are fighting against this unjust law (IPC 498A). After years of steady efforts(and thousands of suicides), the government, has finally decided to have a re-look at this tyrannical law. Currently it is pending before law commission. Though the govt won't repeal this unjust law, it is the duty of every responsible citizen, to voice their concern against such unjust laws. 

 Below is a link on the law commission website, which has a questionnaire on their website.

http://lawcommissionofindia.nic.in/reports/cp-s498.doc

 Request  you to please reply to that. Below is one such reply.
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1R1Lx6x019unIrS0BTmEsQgXkxQ2uRCjDZ2Vb0-EPw6s/edit?hl=en

You can take copies of this, and add your Name, Address, Signature, etc, and send it t, the below address

498A questionnaire reply
LAW COMMISSION OF INDIA, 2nd Floor,  The Indian Law Institute Building
(Opp. to Supreme Court), Bhagwandas Road, New Delhi - 110 001.

Why did the family committed suicide

Recently in Pune, four members of a family(a man, his brother, and parents) committed suicide.

http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/pune-four-members-of-a-family-commit-suicide-93734

http://www.mid-day.com/news/2011/mar/240311-news-pune-suspect-internal-fracas-case-of-suicide.htm

http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_harassed-four-of-pune-family-kill-themselves_1523979

Though, whoever heard about it, sympathized about the family, many were in self denial about the real cause of the suicide. The man had written a well thought out and very elaborate, five page will before dying. Both the man and his brother were very well educated, and had been very succesful in their respective careers. They were in a very good financial condition. Then why did they committed suicide ?

To the honored, dishonor is worse than death.

  - Bhagwad Gita (2.34)

Turned out, that the man had been married last year. The marriage didn't turned out well. The wife started tormenting the husband. She even went to his office, and created a fracas, over there, to embarrass him. She threatened to file a police complaint against him. Unable to bear the agony, he and his family committed suicide.

Hmm, sounds crazy, and hard to believe ? Well in that case, you must not have heard about the dreaded Indian Penal Code, Section 498A. This tyrannical law was passed in the year  1983, by the Indian Parliament. The goal behind enacting this law, was to curb  "dowry menace". Since according to propaganda (as shown in various films, and newspapers, of that time) Daughter In Law, was the most harassed species on earth. So the law was made very harsh. It gave the power to any Indian wife to go to local Police Station, and lodge a complaint against her husband, and any of his relatives. Upon such a complaint, the police were duty bound to arrest the husband, and anyone, who has named by the abla naari. In legal terms, this is called, cognizable, and non-bailable.

As time passed on, many unscrupulous Indian wives discovered, that they can simply go to any police station in India, and lodge a complaint against their husbands. The law made it mandatory, that the wife can lodge the complaint, in any corner of the country. The police had to take the complaint, and act. Unless though, the husband, is a politician, and has got money and connections.

Quite obviously the main victims of this tyrannical law, were honest, straight forward husbands, and their family members. With the growth in knowledge about this deadly legal provision, thousands of cases started being filed, across the country. The result - in the last ten years, more then a million men (11,01,337) and 3,24,951 women have been arrested,  The fact, that more then 98% of these people got acquitted is testimony to the fact, that most of these cases were false.
It comes without saying, that all these abla naari's go scot free, after filing all these false cases.

Since society views that "no smoke without fire". But society doesn't realizes that in matrimonial issues,  wherein most of the cases due to minor ego issues, cases are lodged, doesn't means that husband should be sent to jail.

Below link, gives good analysis, of what kind of wife lodges a 498A case.
http://indianhusbands.blogspot.com/2005/08/498a-made-for-sita-but-surpanakhas-are.html

It is no wonder that 498A is always preceded with the word false, and these cases are termed as false 498A. One can do a thesis on this. In fact, one person, already has on some aspect of these.

Repealing of this tyrannical law will be a fitting tribute, to the victims of the suicide.

Shiney Ahuja and biased Indian laws

The recent case of Shiney Ahuja, has brought into spot light, how tyrannical Indian laws really are. His maid, who accused him of rape, later retracted her statement in the court.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/entertainment/bollywood/news-interviews/Shiney-never-raped-me-Maid/articleshow/6512247.cms

For those, who are aware of cases of offenses against women, this was no surprise. In fact it is a standard practise in India, by unscrupulous (mostly young) women, to misuse laws, and file false caes to extort huge amount of money from the accused. Indian laws presume, before any investigation, that a complaint made by a women of harassment against a men is genuine.
Most of these laws are very strict, bail is not so easy to get. Shiney Ahuja, with all his money and fame, still had to spend 100+ days in prison. Image, what is the plight of millions languishing in Indian prisons, under such false cases. Will it be surprising, if atleast some amongst these millions decide to react for all the atrocities committed on them ? It is not surprising, then, that the Indian legal system is good at creating criminals.

Add to it, we have incompetent and corrupt judges, who add to the misery of innocent accused. With all the trial by media, and sex starved Indian society, the innocent accused is driven to despair. No wonder India, has such a high rate of suicides amongst males, in the age group of 20 to 50.

Tortured by wife, police inspector commits suicide

If a senior police officer can be  harassed by his wife, imagine the torture, that a common Indian citizen, has to undergo.


http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Troubled-by-ex-wife-cop-shoots-self/articleshow/5829717.cms


MUMBAI: The constables of Borivali police station were shocked when they heard a bullet shot coming from the changing room early on Sunday morning. Police inspector S Patil had shot himself in the head with his service revolver and was found lying on the ground inside the room.

"He was on duty the previous night and in the morning, once his shift got over, he walked into the changing room and shot himself," said additional commissioner of police, Ramrao Pawar. In his suicide note, Patil blamed his ex-wife and her brothers for pushing him to take this step.

The Borivali police have arrested Nirmala Desai (50), Baban Desai (45) and Dutta Desai (40) in this case. Initial investigations reveal that Patil was alledegly regularly troubled by his ex-wife and her brothers for money.

Married to Patil in 1978, Nirmala left him in the 1982 since Patil was just a constable at that time and she didn't want to live with him. "They didn't get an official divorce but she gave him in writing that he could marry anybody else if he wants," added Pawar. Soon, Patil married for the second time and now has three children in this marriage. Few years ago, Patil got promoted to the post of an inspector and this is when Nirmala allegedly started harassing him.

"She and her brother would regularly blackmail Patil by threatening to malign his reputation in the society to extort money out of him. Since his children weren't aware of Patil's past, he wanted to keep it a secret and adhered to their demands," said another senior official. With the harassment lasting for almost four years, Patil had already shelled out Rs 7.5 lakh to the trio to keep their mouth shut. Still, Nirmala's brother started demanding Rs 10 lakhs more from Patil. "In his suicide note, Patil has mentioned that this was the main reason for him to take this step," added the officer.

Just four days ago, Nirmala had also sent a written notice to Patil asking for an alimony. The trio has now been arrested under sections 306 (abetment of suicide) and 384 (extortion of money) of the Indian Penal Code.

Marriage without sex is anathema - Supreme Court of India

"Marriage without sex is an anathema. Sex is the foundation of marriage and without a vigorous  and harmonious sexual activity it would be impossible for any marriage to continue for long. It cannot be denied that the sexual activity in marriage has an extremely favourable influence on a woman’s mind and body. The result being that if she does not get proper sexual satisfaction it will lead to  depression and frustration. It has been said that the sexual relations when happy and harmonious vivifres woman’s brain, develops her character and trebles her vitality. It must be  recognized that nothing is more fatal to marriage than disappointment in sexual intercourse."
   Supreme Court of India, in Vinita Saxena Vs Pankaj Pandit.
    Date of Judgement - 21/03/2006
   Quoting from The Division Bench in the case of
    Rita Nijhawan vs. Balkrishan Nijhawan in AIR 1973 Delhi 200 at 209

And you thought, marriage is based upon trust, understanding, blah, blah, blah.

A harassed Indian Father

Recently there is a nice programme on Zee Marathi, called "Yaala Jivan Aise Naav". Loosely translated as "This is what is called Life". The show is hosted by Renuka Shahane. The show is very down to earth, and it aims to put forth, problems suffered by common men. The show is characterized by it simplicity, and its direct to the problem approach, avoiding all the publicity gimmicks rampant nowadays.

In the episode on 6th February, a gentleman, by the name Purushottam Mahajan, had appeared on the show.
After hearing his plight, everyone's eye's were welled with tears, including the ever cheerful Renuka Shahane, even she couldn't control her tears. Even though the court, had granted visitation rights to this father, his wife, didn't allowed him access to his only son. It is more then 10 months, that this father, hasn't even had a glimpse of his only son, whom he so dearly loves. And the Family court hasn't even done anything, even when this is a glaring contempt of court. Such was the father-son bonding, that his little son, had himself, requested the marriage counsellor in court, to increase the visitation time, with his father. Whenever this father, used to visit his son, at his school, his son would point to his friends, and tell them, see " There comes my best friend !".

When his wife was leaving his house, the police had accompanied her. At that time, his son, requested the wife, that "Mummy, maybe, we shouldn't leave Papa's house". On hearing this, the cruel wife, started thrashing that 9 year old child, with her chappals. Such was the cruelty of the event, that even Police were moved.

Bowing to his wife's wishes, the husband, left his career in films, and took a job in a bank. He helped her start a beauty parlor. He tried to inculcate good values in her. He took her to places like British Library, etc, but she was never into it. In the mean time, she developed extra marital relationships with a police officer, which later she used to harass her husband. Not content with verbally abusing her husband, she used to physically abuse him too. Add to it, always insulting him, and his parents. In short, he had a hellish life.

Amongst all this it was SIFF, which offered him hope, and gave him the determination to fight against
this injustice. SIFF'ian Ajit Sakharkar helped him.



There are lacs of Indian husbands, who have the same plight, many are even worse then this. Atleast Mr. Purushottam got to vent his plight, but what about the lacs of others, who are suffering silently, and are on the way to commit suicide ? Does our so called great nation, has anything to offer solace to them ? Surprisingly, even though they are victim of domestic violence, Indian law, cannot help them in any way, since Indian legal system is of the view, that a husband, can never be harassed !


The videos are kept on youtube, at the below link,



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zMBfTXPI88

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXkz_UNxkB4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nFo_RI0Yl8

Cursed Indian Male

What does it means to be a male in Indian society. Add honesty, and integrity to it, and the result is a target, which is wide open for a free for all, harassment. If the male is married, and the wife is unscrupulous, the male better commit suicide, and that is what most Indian husbands are doing. We have a society, in which suicides of married husbands are double that of married women, and still he is brandished as the perpetrator. And to ensure that he is thoroughly given a hellish experience, right here on earth, the great Indian legal machinery is there to support the evil Indian wife. She has been equipped with very lethal and potent laws, 498a, DV, HMA, 406, DP, are few of them. This blog is a honest attempt to try to give my meagre contribution, to the battle against this evil.